Dock! Tell, please, about sex violence The spouse above suprugoj...

[Irina]

Dock! Tell, please, about sex violence
The spouse above suprugoj. As often it happens (statistics) what to undertake, as itself a message.
Direct example with JUlej. Than can end such
Marriage or Spoilage. Not a secret, that many hide it iz-for false shame, from a status of a hopelessness. Can
It is possible is as much as possible accessible to explain to women of the reason of such phenomenon? Thanks.

[Isaev D.D.]

Dear Irina! As to statistics of sex violence according to national interrogation in the USA of all rapes of 9 % are made by husbands... The domestic statistics simply is not present.
In many countries still recently rapes in family considered or counted as norm or rate and only recently them began to consider or examine;survey as a criminal offence (for example, in Germany - in 1996). Is more often it occurs or happens in families where attitudes or relations have disputed character where husbands suffer psychopathic character, or concern to women as to people of " the second grade ", believe, that wives should carry out all whims of the husbands (including sex)... If the man does not have internal culture, love and respect for the close person (at norm or rate of all this should be present!!!), The woman who does not suppose in attitudes or relations "slabiny" can render that constraining influence... And here in other cases, unfortunately, much depends on wrong behaviour of the woman. If she considers or counts possible or probable to forgive the rasping, cynical attitude or relation to it does not lead to the termination or discontinuance of similar behaviour, and actually opens to him road... Under laws of self-development similar astable attitudes or relations sooner or later come to the logic extremity or end when the behaviour of the spouse leaves for all conceivable frameworks, and position of the wife turns almost in slavish. At the wife the alarm, depression, serious neurotic statuses is formed. She loses ability objectively to estimate or appreciate an event and passively accepts everyday humiliations...
It is very complex or difficult to give advice or councils in the "started" cases. Then it is possible to recommend the woman even for any time to be switched off from this situation (for example, kuda-that for a while to leave), to restore an objective view on itself and what to be created in marriage or spoilage.... Only then it is possible to count on sober acts from its or her party or side.
Objectively speaking to suffer or bear such it is impossible! Any, other party or side it is impossible to lose human appearance!