Agate
27.08.2004, 21:07
Girls, here I here have seen or overlooked some reports and to me have occurred to consult to you. It is very necessary for me chyo-that opinion in occasion of that what to do or make and as. The history is those:
I married for the Canadian 3 years. At it or him two sons from the previous marriage or spoilage of 13 and 16 years. With the senior son we always had good relations, and here with younger - well cannot adjust the attitude or relation in any way, and recently even not hochetsja to adjust. Children live with mummy, but often come on a visit, especially in the summer. Children spoilt, not such as at us in Russia. No responsibility is present. In the whole days ransack in a refrigeration cabinet and on shelfs in searches something vkusnenkogo. Can eat the last not having thought at all about others. Behind itself do not clean or remove, clothes will remove or take off and will throw anywhere, to footwear go on the house, everywhere after them empty packages from under chips and banks from under pepsi roll. In the meantime to me to have to be cleaned or removed, erase their clothes and to cook food. In shop always something we buy for children - morozhennoe, chips, chocolate...
They izbalovanny the father, as he them rastil since the childhood, well and then, he, as they say - pofigist. I have not got used to such. Since the childhood knew, that should to wash also utensils, and to clean or remove behind itself toys, bed, to help or assist with a kitchen garden - weeding, watering in the summer. Washing 13 years or summer daughter (she in Russia) though and too with character, but also utensils washes without reminders (instead of that what to push in a dishwasher) and is cleaned or removed. I estesstvenno do or make remarks to boys therefore as I believe, that in family everyone should have what that obligations and duties. Recently my husband has told or said, that I too to them carp supposedly let boys have a good time. Has told or said, that I them pull all time. OK, I have solved, that I shall speak nothing, let he now with them consults. Three weeks has passed or has taken place. Now he on them growls, and I have morally a rest. Now a problem: Younger constantly snaps. That me idiotkoj will name or tuporyloj (-anglijski). I have told or said, that I to him not the girl-friend, that I the adult person and its or his stepmother, and what he so did not talk to me. He has turned a deaf ear. There were we kak-that troyom on kitchen or cuisine. I almost between them. Younger argues that he will do or make and where to live if its or his mum will die. To what he the college will go and so on. I ask: " About what that you, children or guys, speak? " And he to me: " It is conversation between And and, instead of between And, and " " Well, it is good " I have told or said and have left. Another time he to me has answered a question on school, that he is not obliged to respond me. Well and all in such spirit. What to do or make. Insults to exchange - to fall on its or his level, unworthy adult person. Slap in the face? I can not. Vo-the first because he to the same cannot respond me, vo-the second, mummy will not resolve. In the third, here children physically do not punish. Can to me of anything for it or him not do or make? To not erase. To prepare for something is easier, to not buy more everyones vkusnostej for children. Can in general cease to talk after following attack. And that in the morning (late) when he wakes up and there is a room I to him: "Good morning", and he: " It day " a rasping voice. Voobshchem here it is a lot of everything then you will not tell. If nuzhn y to a detail ask questions. Thanks in advance.
I married for the Canadian 3 years. At it or him two sons from the previous marriage or spoilage of 13 and 16 years. With the senior son we always had good relations, and here with younger - well cannot adjust the attitude or relation in any way, and recently even not hochetsja to adjust. Children live with mummy, but often come on a visit, especially in the summer. Children spoilt, not such as at us in Russia. No responsibility is present. In the whole days ransack in a refrigeration cabinet and on shelfs in searches something vkusnenkogo. Can eat the last not having thought at all about others. Behind itself do not clean or remove, clothes will remove or take off and will throw anywhere, to footwear go on the house, everywhere after them empty packages from under chips and banks from under pepsi roll. In the meantime to me to have to be cleaned or removed, erase their clothes and to cook food. In shop always something we buy for children - morozhennoe, chips, chocolate...
They izbalovanny the father, as he them rastil since the childhood, well and then, he, as they say - pofigist. I have not got used to such. Since the childhood knew, that should to wash also utensils, and to clean or remove behind itself toys, bed, to help or assist with a kitchen garden - weeding, watering in the summer. Washing 13 years or summer daughter (she in Russia) though and too with character, but also utensils washes without reminders (instead of that what to push in a dishwasher) and is cleaned or removed. I estesstvenno do or make remarks to boys therefore as I believe, that in family everyone should have what that obligations and duties. Recently my husband has told or said, that I too to them carp supposedly let boys have a good time. Has told or said, that I them pull all time. OK, I have solved, that I shall speak nothing, let he now with them consults. Three weeks has passed or has taken place. Now he on them growls, and I have morally a rest. Now a problem: Younger constantly snaps. That me idiotkoj will name or tuporyloj (-anglijski). I have told or said, that I to him not the girl-friend, that I the adult person and its or his stepmother, and what he so did not talk to me. He has turned a deaf ear. There were we kak-that troyom on kitchen or cuisine. I almost between them. Younger argues that he will do or make and where to live if its or his mum will die. To what he the college will go and so on. I ask: " About what that you, children or guys, speak? " And he to me: " It is conversation between And and, instead of between And, and " " Well, it is good " I have told or said and have left. Another time he to me has answered a question on school, that he is not obliged to respond me. Well and all in such spirit. What to do or make. Insults to exchange - to fall on its or his level, unworthy adult person. Slap in the face? I can not. Vo-the first because he to the same cannot respond me, vo-the second, mummy will not resolve. In the third, here children physically do not punish. Can to me of anything for it or him not do or make? To not erase. To prepare for something is easier, to not buy more everyones vkusnostej for children. Can in general cease to talk after following attack. And that in the morning (late) when he wakes up and there is a room I to him: "Good morning", and he: " It day " a rasping voice. Voobshchem here it is a lot of everything then you will not tell. If nuzhn y to a detail ask questions. Thanks in advance.