Hello the dear doctor, I am similar to the loony at me now is horo...

[Alexander]

Hello the dear doctor,

I am similar to the loony at me now there is well adjusted life, the girl voobshchem any another in would wash age would be glad to that as I live, but I have one problem firstly I thought that small, and now even I do not know. The matter is that at me probably old-fashioned, fantastic representations about love. I met girls and I had absolutely Platonic attitudes or relations with girls (I did not trust any of them up to the extremity or end and always stopped because understood that they do not like me on the present what is it either wrong love, or their addicting), I essentially was not intimally close with them because considered or counted that in a life there should be only one girl, but such that all rest merklo before her. So was while I have not met it or her 4 months we communicated soul in soul to both of us was so well I was pleased as dite went to bed knowing that to dream me she. With neterpenem we waited for evening or days off that again and again to walk up to polunochi. We had in attitudes or relations all as in a fairy tale there was also its or her treatment for a terrible attack of an asthma, there was its or her salvage from failure or accident. Such nezabyvaetsja. So was yet there was that that has poisoned with a poison or venom of the slowed down action all my feelings. Later 4 months we had a night, by that moment I precisely knew what is it that girl with which I now it is the greatest love which was and is in my life (I am assured or confident of that that never such will be). Yes but in the first night it was found out that one of us preal the love shortly before the beginning of our attitudes or relations, having given in first and last time before me (as it was found out later) to the previous guy, only to leave that... Here so the fairy tale has ended. There is no I too liked it or her to offend her at once or to offend, and after I did or made it very cautiously. But I have understood what is it not so my person that always she laying down with me will remember as raspingly and other person has severely managed with her. Since that moment bile has lodged in me, an idea on that that the person not waited happiness spoiled and selected it or him at another, has no right to it or him, about that that time not to me it intended, I mean worse it or him, it means that I worse it or him, in fact she already knew me then has chosen it or him, have lodged in me. JAgovoril with her I have told or said that neznaju, what now I have flashes of a rage on it or her (when again and again there are these questions) but instead of condemning, at it or her begins cry also which leads to a breath holding and an exacerbation of an asthma, it became a pity to me it or her and some times vsetaki having communicated on this subject I have understood that she not pomoshnik she only speaks me that very much likes and does not wish me to lose, cannot present as she will live without me, (of what she thought then? = (). We continue to meet has passed or has taken place year, I continue to press in myself a rage, but sometimes it seems that I already go mad, that at me a dual personality where one likes it or her, and another so fiercely hates that becomes terrible, but our attitudes or relations from its or her point of view remarkable she does not see these excruciatings (for example izgryzanie a pillow through at night) izbivanie a wall up to slomanyh greater or big fingers of arms or hand. She has already acquainted me with parents and speaks, that they ask when we shall get married. And I neznaju that to me to do or make, in fact I like it or her it precisely! But I hate it or her sometimes, it too is correct, I hate so, that is ready to strangle (probably I the monster). That to me to do or make as me to get rid of my problems. In fact it seems to me that now I am responsible or crucial in fact I have not thrown it or her at once, znachitne I have the rights to make now. On the other hand I like it or her and if she will leave at me there will be no sense in a life. What to me to do or make?

[Vladushka]

Probably you need to understand up to the extremity or end itself,
While you will not draw conclusions - will be excruciated. Probably at you attacks not a rage, and jealousy. It seems to me if the person is jealous, he in what that degrees is not self-assured. And then if the person likes he can forgive or excuse all, even treachery. The main thing that then the partner in the further did not use your skill to forgive.

[The clever man]

Hear, loh, you were bothered with all this to write?

[The anonym]

How hardly to understand that YOURS belonged to ANOTHER??? Here also suffer for all wives whom husbands change and it is simple little girls whom you throw for the sake of one traha.. I wish your of good luck. Go to the expert

[tusja]

CHto-something I not so understand sense Vashchih of experiences. As I have understood, she has overslept with another when you were familiar, but did not meet yet. Forgive or excuse, and what, she should wait for you all life? You did not meet still! I understand, that you romantik. For you the attitude or relation either all or anything. But in a life there is no all so simply. In a life all is more complex or difficult. You either are too young, or too emotional. Well what for fingers to fracture? What for to make it or her cry? What for to excruciate the person as the criminal? You do not wish it or her to lose! Try to forget about an event. The past is has left or cunning. Think of the present, about your love, about the future happiness. You like it or her, she you and this main thing! And about huzhe-it is better than an idea in general wrong. You would be worse, she would not be with you.

[The anonym]

1) to you husbands because you same in the childhood as she change.

2) Yes she should wait in fact I waited for it or her, " it was not simple little girls whom you throw for the sake of one traha ". I to her as to myself show the same demands

3) Yes, hardly to realize that "you" belonged to another, and that it never becomes only to yours. Moreover it never will forget it or him because he has hurted and has thrown.

[Olga]

You like only yourself and "sufferings".
Here also live one regretting itself and whining.
To like you you are not able, so and not dostoin that someone there waited for you and liked.
Typical nedonosok. From such Gitlery turn out: - ((

[Alexander]

I ask to help or assist myself, Olga to like those are not able who does not believe in love, those who is given simply so, those who consider or count what is it normally and then cover each other, but from that that you the majority it does not mean at all that and it is necessary. I am not able to like, chtozh is sad then tell as it to make in my situation and at you hardly it it will turn out because each of you though at heart yes understands me, I understand that all taki the rights, but phobia of condemnation from others and barrackings "maloletka", are in advance ready on everything, even on that to be thrown with the love to such rascals and all because on everyone such of you there will be such fool as I which will like all the same which all the same will forgive or excuse, which will not show to this pain, but can will go imperceptibly on the party or side not having special desire, becoming or beginning same as you on your fault. In it or this also there is a problem.

[Nika]

Alexander, the help psihloga is necessary for you! Your ideas have no anything the general or common with a reality, even is deep in soul or douche where at everyone the cockroaches))) Most likely in your childhood there were psychological traumas!? The life is a life, we LIVE!!! We cannot stand on a place, circumstances vary, we vary, people like each other, miss, for many reasons. Anybody from it or this not zastrahovan and terrible in it or this is not present anything. She did not deceive you and did not try, and here I really consider or count a deceit treachery. Though probably that all of us here did not write... To you will not help or assist, the doctor is necessary to you, do not think, that I am dared or laugh)))

[Monika]

It seems to me, that Alexander - the only child in itself because at it or him egoism and vanity is too developed. Cease to consider or count the girl as the property! Know, that I to you shall tell or say. That she your girl, she HAS not been obliged TO WAIT EARLIER ONLY for YOU, she is not obliged BEFORE YOU in what, t. To. Not you have given birth to it or her. Correctly my guy sometimes speaks: " I should nothing to anybody! ", I understand it or him, because he speaks that it or him to not force to make through force something, and always help or assist he can. He was born not that KOMU-SOMEONE, _ SHOULD, he was born to live and operate or control the life! Therefore, ALEKSANDR, and your girl of ANYTHING to YOU is not obliged! Descend or go to the psychologist if at YOU on it is money!

[Siren]

Throw it or her, she is not necessary you. I consider or count when like not podjesh in paws to another.

[Mishela]

My God!
The poor girl if she will marry you. You constrain yourselves till a marriage, and after it or her your true I vyrvitsja, will begin (probably) rukoprikladstvo and it is not known up to what in general you can dojdti....
And predstavte a situation, she at job also was late raspingly speaking at the underground or has come into cafe to gossip)) pobaltat about that about this with the girl-friend what will be your reaction. At job there is other and man's collective and here at them a party without you. That then. You to her a head proshibete, instead of a wall...
So it is impossible, the psychologist is certainly necessary to you.
It is not necessary to idealize a life and people is a fairy tale and there are no princes and princesses. There are usual alive people, sosvoimi the positive and negative moments. And here if you accept the negative moments it is already good)))
Certainly there is a LOVE and it is necessary to believe in it or her, but not necessary to forget, that you like the alive Person, sosvoimi pavors, defects, etc.

[Kristina]

lichno ya soglasna s toboy. ya prosto predstavila chtobi ya sdelala v dannoy situacii. ya mogu tolko dat sovet, resheniye za toboy. esli ti lubish, to ti doljen prostit ee. ved vi eshe togda ne vstrechalis. a to chto ti vse eto vremya jdal svoyu polovinku ochen romantichno i eto ne staromodno. chas takix parney eshe poiskat nado. prosto prislushaysa k svoemu serdcu i ti naydesh vihod. udachi tebe. ostavaysa vsegda pri svoem mnenii. vi lubite drug druga i dumayte tolko o budushem postaraysa prostit. ved radi lubvi nujno inogda idti na kompromisi