Andrey
22.08.2004, 13:46
MY MUM DOES NOT ALLOW ME TO LIVE NORMALLY!
To me of 18 years. At us usual family from four person. Parents (both native), I and the senior sister. We live in Peter. In the financial plan of difficulties we do not test. I at all do not know as to explain and from what to begin, but I hope you will understand. For the beginning I shall describe parents: the Daddy at us imperous enough strict person. But what strong disgusting immoral qualities I do not see that. Certainly we with the sister like both parents. Mum at me very kind and the gentle person, never heard cry from its or her lips. But nevertheless in opinion of the father, as though to be expressed more softly, whether she is not so clever that... To Me very hardly to write such lines because it is a question of my liked parents. During too time mum at me the artful person. No, she does not use cunning in what that the mercenary purposes, no. Business in other, about it or this I shall tell or say later.
And so, I approach or suit to the most important: my mum always completely supervised a situation of the house. She overhears many telephone conversations. For example, having left in shop and having left me of one house, after arrival home she steadfastly looks to me to face trying to find what that suspicious features, a smile, etc. If will find, can and will try to try to find out... About that I spoke by with the girl to phone and there is no speech. I am not deprived vneshshchnostju. There were many moments when I saw a signal, the invitation from girls... But respond I could not... There Was what that isolation. Recently from the Internet has downloaded beautiful classical music Baha. I sit I listen behind a computer. Mum has heard and began to enter often into this moment in my room, that as though distracting my attention. All its or her actions I of glades and me became uzhastno! She believes, that I listen to music, at me navivajutsja sad ideas, voznikjut ideas about ennobled or raised, kind feelings (such happens at listening many compositions) are caused or cause. And that it or this nebylo mum constantly comes into my room in it the moment. All this is repeatedly proved to itself me for many years. But really my mum does not understand, that listening of the certain music on the contrary introduces in human soul only good. Causes positive feelings, emotions (I have in view of classics). Really she does not understand, that having entered so specially in a room, she that embitters me and does or makes my mood bad on all the day! Other example: I watch on TV news. There there was a plot about orphans. Also have shown the moment very sad when children in small chorus sing. My mum enters, asks to me any empty silly questions, pretending, that something searches. I in general the person raskeposhchennyj. I can speak on different subjects. But about what, even about girls I cannot speak with mum! With other adult person without ceremony! And with mum is not present.
If I shall speak suddenly about what that, at once to appear an artful smile, eyes will look in a floor and basically all!
Sometimes happen gryzenija at the slightest pretext! Now summer, August. In institute I zdal session, have handed over normally. August completely free month for rest. And here there will be a reason, that me pogryst! I Sit I read the book, absolutely I touch or I tamper with nobody and will necessarily find an occasion. And an occasion which really is not present.
Look or See from, I can that that I do not understand? To me of 18 years. I study in institute. The circle of friends at me gets out decent or considerable. I do not smoke, I do not drink... But at it I do not look as an obex to dialogue (if others smoke). The core of pastime: institut-the house, dom-institute. I read much, but I do not concern to what that botanikam and to geniuses. I take a great interest or am fond in psychology. I wish simply to let know to you, that I not such person, as boys from a court yard... It not my society... I cannot talk to them about the politician or politics, about a life, about sciences, yes about much!!! Them are interesting basically are reduced to parties with a bottle of beer and all... With them it is not interesting to me. And mum not in which case does not want that I joined this society that was such as they. But in too we are said lies she it is at times glad, that I sometimes "tusujus" with them at the bottom a birth at whom that... Esi to me are necessary money, mum and the daddy always will give them to me, but will necessarily ask what for. Can give at a rate of 1000 r. And more if only it has been justified. Basically, observing of parents of friends, I often do or make a conclusion that with parents to me has carried. At home me anybody in what does not limit. I to itself the owner. It arranges parents because basically to criticize and gnaw no trouble. But I am am irritated very much with those, about this I have written above. I was bothered here it with nothing an expressing artful look.. I want otkryiyh attitudes or relations... I tried or tasted already in techeniei many years TO TALK to mum. She speaks yes, well. But next day all repeats all over again. I thought, that she forgets... Tried to remind every day, even the list has made... But all this is useless... What to do or make I do not know... I in despair... At me ideas that if I look what nibud film already spin or I listen to music and mum specially enters to distract me, I put the ultimatum, that if once again will enter, I can that nibud ischportit. I understand, it is very bad, but I do not see an output or exit. I became nervous, irritable... I am afraid, that yet much and I shall shout at mum... Why she does not understand, that she from me does or makes by that the awful person! From the point of view, I think, that as its or her son, I arrange it or her completely... Scandals I do not get or I start;I deliver, I shall come home and silently peacefully zanimas the business. My position in family is constructed so, that I touch or tamper with nobody the first never!
About the father: I see, really I see, that to him too gets... Yes he can shout and put on a place... Well it for today... And then again! The Real example: they have woken up in the morning... The father since morning was silent, thought of the problems... (they were), mum has some times asked it or him you of that malicious? He has told or said: I not malicious. Mum has again asked, you why malicious? And so about five times! The father has not sustained and has told or said: well if you want that I was malicious, I shall be malicious! Result: they did not talk week... It only one classical case, such cases with me, with the father, even with the sister mnozhesto! Each case has no real substantiation. My mum does not work, we are fed with the father.
I very much hope, that you can really help or assist me advice or council. For accuracy I wish to tell or say here that: neither at mum nor at the daddy " on the party or side " anybody is not present. I am absolutely assured or confident of it or this! Still I uvernen that parents nevertheless like each other if it was not so to hide it it was not possible, therefore I exclude the factor of divorce at once. Still I want will add, neither the father nor mother separately do not wish divorce. Both the father and mother absolutely sincerely wish us, children of goods and happiness... It I have told or said for that, chtobjuy to exclude such possible or probable artificial behaviour of mum with a definite purpose.
Now thinking of the future I drive away terrible ideas on if the wife with similar character will get to me. I began to hate the artful latent people. People at which the smile is artificial and false. During the worthless moment I very much hope that my wife will be the clever open person. I very much hope that between us there will be no blanks and emptiness. I very much hope that our mutual trust will be full.
In any case I do not want that I had such children. I shall make all that they were happy, therefore in no event in a similar way vospitivyt they shall not be. Actually here very much a delicate question... And I have written to this forum and so too much. Very much I hope for your advice or council. Thanks.
To me of 18 years. At us usual family from four person. Parents (both native), I and the senior sister. We live in Peter. In the financial plan of difficulties we do not test. I at all do not know as to explain and from what to begin, but I hope you will understand. For the beginning I shall describe parents: the Daddy at us imperous enough strict person. But what strong disgusting immoral qualities I do not see that. Certainly we with the sister like both parents. Mum at me very kind and the gentle person, never heard cry from its or her lips. But nevertheless in opinion of the father, as though to be expressed more softly, whether she is not so clever that... To Me very hardly to write such lines because it is a question of my liked parents. During too time mum at me the artful person. No, she does not use cunning in what that the mercenary purposes, no. Business in other, about it or this I shall tell or say later.
And so, I approach or suit to the most important: my mum always completely supervised a situation of the house. She overhears many telephone conversations. For example, having left in shop and having left me of one house, after arrival home she steadfastly looks to me to face trying to find what that suspicious features, a smile, etc. If will find, can and will try to try to find out... About that I spoke by with the girl to phone and there is no speech. I am not deprived vneshshchnostju. There were many moments when I saw a signal, the invitation from girls... But respond I could not... There Was what that isolation. Recently from the Internet has downloaded beautiful classical music Baha. I sit I listen behind a computer. Mum has heard and began to enter often into this moment in my room, that as though distracting my attention. All its or her actions I of glades and me became uzhastno! She believes, that I listen to music, at me navivajutsja sad ideas, voznikjut ideas about ennobled or raised, kind feelings (such happens at listening many compositions) are caused or cause. And that it or this nebylo mum constantly comes into my room in it the moment. All this is repeatedly proved to itself me for many years. But really my mum does not understand, that listening of the certain music on the contrary introduces in human soul only good. Causes positive feelings, emotions (I have in view of classics). Really she does not understand, that having entered so specially in a room, she that embitters me and does or makes my mood bad on all the day! Other example: I watch on TV news. There there was a plot about orphans. Also have shown the moment very sad when children in small chorus sing. My mum enters, asks to me any empty silly questions, pretending, that something searches. I in general the person raskeposhchennyj. I can speak on different subjects. But about what, even about girls I cannot speak with mum! With other adult person without ceremony! And with mum is not present.
If I shall speak suddenly about what that, at once to appear an artful smile, eyes will look in a floor and basically all!
Sometimes happen gryzenija at the slightest pretext! Now summer, August. In institute I zdal session, have handed over normally. August completely free month for rest. And here there will be a reason, that me pogryst! I Sit I read the book, absolutely I touch or I tamper with nobody and will necessarily find an occasion. And an occasion which really is not present.
Look or See from, I can that that I do not understand? To me of 18 years. I study in institute. The circle of friends at me gets out decent or considerable. I do not smoke, I do not drink... But at it I do not look as an obex to dialogue (if others smoke). The core of pastime: institut-the house, dom-institute. I read much, but I do not concern to what that botanikam and to geniuses. I take a great interest or am fond in psychology. I wish simply to let know to you, that I not such person, as boys from a court yard... It not my society... I cannot talk to them about the politician or politics, about a life, about sciences, yes about much!!! Them are interesting basically are reduced to parties with a bottle of beer and all... With them it is not interesting to me. And mum not in which case does not want that I joined this society that was such as they. But in too we are said lies she it is at times glad, that I sometimes "tusujus" with them at the bottom a birth at whom that... Esi to me are necessary money, mum and the daddy always will give them to me, but will necessarily ask what for. Can give at a rate of 1000 r. And more if only it has been justified. Basically, observing of parents of friends, I often do or make a conclusion that with parents to me has carried. At home me anybody in what does not limit. I to itself the owner. It arranges parents because basically to criticize and gnaw no trouble. But I am am irritated very much with those, about this I have written above. I was bothered here it with nothing an expressing artful look.. I want otkryiyh attitudes or relations... I tried or tasted already in techeniei many years TO TALK to mum. She speaks yes, well. But next day all repeats all over again. I thought, that she forgets... Tried to remind every day, even the list has made... But all this is useless... What to do or make I do not know... I in despair... At me ideas that if I look what nibud film already spin or I listen to music and mum specially enters to distract me, I put the ultimatum, that if once again will enter, I can that nibud ischportit. I understand, it is very bad, but I do not see an output or exit. I became nervous, irritable... I am afraid, that yet much and I shall shout at mum... Why she does not understand, that she from me does or makes by that the awful person! From the point of view, I think, that as its or her son, I arrange it or her completely... Scandals I do not get or I start;I deliver, I shall come home and silently peacefully zanimas the business. My position in family is constructed so, that I touch or tamper with nobody the first never!
About the father: I see, really I see, that to him too gets... Yes he can shout and put on a place... Well it for today... And then again! The Real example: they have woken up in the morning... The father since morning was silent, thought of the problems... (they were), mum has some times asked it or him you of that malicious? He has told or said: I not malicious. Mum has again asked, you why malicious? And so about five times! The father has not sustained and has told or said: well if you want that I was malicious, I shall be malicious! Result: they did not talk week... It only one classical case, such cases with me, with the father, even with the sister mnozhesto! Each case has no real substantiation. My mum does not work, we are fed with the father.
I very much hope, that you can really help or assist me advice or council. For accuracy I wish to tell or say here that: neither at mum nor at the daddy " on the party or side " anybody is not present. I am absolutely assured or confident of it or this! Still I uvernen that parents nevertheless like each other if it was not so to hide it it was not possible, therefore I exclude the factor of divorce at once. Still I want will add, neither the father nor mother separately do not wish divorce. Both the father and mother absolutely sincerely wish us, children of goods and happiness... It I have told or said for that, chtobjuy to exclude such possible or probable artificial behaviour of mum with a definite purpose.
Now thinking of the future I drive away terrible ideas on if the wife with similar character will get to me. I began to hate the artful latent people. People at which the smile is artificial and false. During the worthless moment I very much hope that my wife will be the clever open person. I very much hope that between us there will be no blanks and emptiness. I very much hope that our mutual trust will be full.
In any case I do not want that I had such children. I shall make all that they were happy, therefore in no event in a similar way vospitivyt they shall not be. Actually here very much a delicate question... And I have written to this forum and so too much. Very much I hope for your advice or council. Thanks.