We live a civil marriage 2, 8 years. I from other city. Earlier all was...

[Aleknn]

We live a civil marriage 2, 8 years. I from other city. Earlier all was good. And now we live with its or his mum (moskvichkoj) which hates me (provintsialku) though all house on me - washing, cooking (only for us), cleaning... To throw out dust. Naturally I get tired (+ job) in the evening hunting to sleep, and the husband on job goes to one o'clock in the afternoon, to sleep in the evening to him it would not be desirable. Insults, that I sonja. Misunderstanding begins. Sends to sleep on other separate bed (it began to repeat often), shouts, anything without it or him is conducted to make it is impossible (even to buy or purchase cowards on ITS or HIS money without demand) though I work. He speaks, that I earn a little. All of money to him I give. Sometimes very well. But basically - I wait with horror of its or his arrival home. I look in what mood. To marry does not want, but I do not insist. It is necessary to something to solve. And that I do not know. Prompt?

[The anonym]

Hrosho that though children are not present.. Run from them than further subjects it is better.. ZHlobyo..

[Leka]

What here to solve and so all it is clear. Leave! And
Somewhat quicker. Certainly if you do not wish to wait all life
Its or His arrival home with pavor. Business not that
You provintsialka, and that the love has passed or has taken place,
From here and problems.

[The anonym]

da, nado uhoditj, zizni ne budet..

[Julia]

At me a question of a problem nachilis from arrival of its or his mum?

[Ninel]

And what you would advise the best girlfriend if she has appeared on your place?
I think... .brosit. I understand, what you will tell or say, what you like it or him, you have no place to leave, etc. It is possible to make small experiment and whether to check up all business in mother?
1. mini-experiment - to go together to holiday. If at all of you hokej there you reconcile also all business in household squabbles.
2. Or to rent the apartment and live together.
If these two variants do not pass or take place, and your guy wishes to change nothing - hardly he you likes that.
The first napervoe in your case - to not give him money. To put or fold separately for itself - to speak, the darling, I save for us, but to me is easier if this money all taki will be stored or kept at me. He will accuse you of commercialism, zhlobstve - do not listen, it he zhlob, and you the normal woman, which provides itself. " The darling, you to me not the husband.... " - a phrase, a priori.
Then, prkratite for all there to work. You that it or him the dishwasher, poloterka.....
Let there will be a schedule of cleaning of an apartment.....
Certainly it it is complex or difficult to arrange all, as there you on the bird's rights, but also your way is utopian and the life threatens iskoverka to you..... Therefore think first of all of the nerves, etc.
For an example I can tell or say, that was in approximately your situation..... .dengi earned could not spend, as the husband checked, - this money I stored or kept the blessing in the rectangular approach traffic pattern and he had no right them to use..... Too walked dogs of their family and prepared, erased..... Besides rraboty..... And the mother-in-law with the sonny came in the evening and took seat at a TV set........
It is not necessary and speak, than all this has ended, I till now cannot take away money which to him has borrowed or lent....
So do or make conclusions and think. That it is a pity to give the life to the people, not costing or standing it or this.

[Elena]

Ninel, nobody can approve or confirm, he likes you or not - another's soul darkness. But if events so are developed or unwrapped, you should separate from it or him a little. Vo-the first, what for to give him the salary? You the adult person! Have the right to spend the money how consider it necessary. Vo-the second, what for to drag on itself all? Send or have come in the evening from job, had a bite - and on a sofa! " You understand, the darling, I am very tired. I need to have a rest. Wash up, please, utensils and bear or take out dust ". If it will not be possible to agree thus, means, leave even for any time (to the girlfriend, relatives and t.) - check up, it will be how much comfortable to you the friend without the friend. If will feel simplification - means, hardly it is necessary to continue attitudes or relations with this person. Well, and if cannot live separately, means, be at war for the rights. Otherwise in two years turn to the tired out or driven jade and do not become necessary at all to him.

[The anonym]

I apologize, in the previous report has by mistake typed or collected name Ninel. Meant, certainly, Aleknn

[Aleknn]

Thanks all who has responded! Only to leave terribly.... Though certainly I shall not be gone anywhere (there are friends vse-taki). Only it or him it is a pity... If I shall leave, he never will ask me to return, even if to him it is bad. And when we live - separatness I well feel myself. CHto-something should in be changed itself, but to him 27 years! Here such sad history, a vicious circle: (

[Ninel]

You regret yourselves is better.
I too from the husband longly did not leave, it was a pity it or him... .i knew, that never will ask to return... But so more to proceed should not.

[Eve]

Can separately rent the apartment, be for a while to you from its or his mum? Many men are subject to influence of mothers, he now between two fires. And from these constants stressov-scandals. The truth if he avaricious it on all life, and to alter it or him it is not possible or probable. At my girlfriend the husband the miser terrible, earns decently, but is constantly cried, that money is not present. But on itself liked always money is, and the wife with the child put on in sekond hand. Speaks that, you all peerly at home sit, what for to you 7 the child quickly grows, what for to be spent for new things. While she worked, put on and bought cosmetics on the money, and for a delivery were together thrown off. On d/r she gave him, hours dear or expensive, kozhannyj a portfolio, perfumery. And he ej-a saucepan, a teapot, a frying pan... Now she collects all checks, and reports in the evening, where money has spent. Waits when to the child it will be executed hotjaby 2 years to come to work, and to leave from this monster. If want about such script of your further life, can and continue further so to live.