Olja, 22 years, St.-Petersburg
16.07.2004, 19:56
Good afternoon! I very much would wish to receive consultation of the psychologist or simply support, t. To. Has very much got confused. To me 22, to him 24. Have started to meet 4 years ago. Were students, all was good, the love, intimate relations, were going to to create family. But, the approached or suited to it or this more close, the opened problems and differences between us more: he from other country (has arrived to study), its or his parents were against constantly pressed on it or him, that it is necessary to come back and help or assist with business, my parents even have forbidden to him to appear at our place (were against, t. To. At us different cultures and he "is not good enough"). We like wished to consult and start to live with all from all independently but it has not turned out. At it or him depression has simply begun: he has given up job, the small business, has thrown institute on last course, has ceased to communicate with friends. I continued to work and hoped, that at it or him will pass or take place crisis and we shall work together and we can create family. But here serious problems at its or his parents have begun and I have understood on its or his mood, that he was going to to go there (if it there would be my parents I too so has made - I it to him and has told or said) it or him to help or assist. It means, that he will not return any more, t. To. Will start to be engaged in business there. I have told or said to him, that so I can not so to live: to wait for it or him, in uncertainty, not knowing even, he will return or not. He has told or said, that I do not like it or him (Though he knows how I am strong it or him I like). Also it is not necessary to think of the future so much. Cited as an example others which all over again marry, and " then think what to do or make further and anything ". Two months he does not call. Desires to begin or start with someone new attitudes or relations at me are not present. I cannot believe, that someone another will be my husband, that someone will be the father of my children. To call to him, I know, it is useless - all will return into place. Practice has shown, that at it or him such character: When I am not accessible - he is ready on everything when I am ready for the sake of it or him on all - he ceases that or to do or make. Here I also wait, that he will call once and will tell or say " Dear, I have made all for our joint life! Give we shall meet! ". I understand, what is it silly, but I can do or make nothing. On the one hand it seems to me, that I in something am guilty, with another, a head I understand, that from the reasonable point of view I have acted or arrived correctly. But he has exposed all as as if I am guilty also all have spoiled. What to me to do or make? Help or assist, please.