Julia
01.07.2004, 22:06
Dear Elena Jurevna!
Help or Assist advice or council, I can not adjust the attitude or relation with the husband in any way though there are already more no forces. We are married only 1, 5 years, a daughter year. There was a greater or big problem - he drank. Has not reached yet drinking-bouts, but a lot of time spent in taverns with friends, came often at daybreak. Sometimes became malicious and aggressive, it was impossible to send it or him to sleep. After once has come absolutely deranged, threw me on walls, the child and when I did not allow to suffice sufficed - even beat, I have shown or presented to him the ultimatum and alcoholic vozlijanija have stopped. But quarrels, t began to flash. To. To keep it was difficult. Quarrels came and left. I tried to offer him of a different sort of a hobby for a free time as alternative to beer and vodka. He all otmel and with a head has left in job, giving reason it is that its or his job and a hobby coincide and that working vneurochno he can provide is better me and the child. It or him almost was not at home, but I agree, that at job it is better, chei in a tavern. Sometimes I was annoyed very much with retorts of our friends reaching me, that a pier I have braided the muzhik and even to drink to him I do not give (that is he all complained of me behind my back though to me spoke, that refusal of alcohol is its or his conscious decision). I tried to not pay to it attention. All still anything, but recently I have come to work also he began to talk, humiliate and abuse with me simply awfully iz-for any house trifles. I tried to speak with it or him, but he could not explain, what's the matter. Such feeling, that enrages it or him, that I was beat out iz-under a heel and in something became independent. And one of these days he under a pretext of job was late at night, it has then appeared, that he also there has drunk some beer. I by phone have abused it or him (all all over again!!!), Not udurzhalas. And he has not come at all, has called next day from mother and has told or said, that leaves, t. To. Cannot suffer or bear more me and I do not allow the muzhik to relax. Today he will come behind things and I know, that he remains only if I shall find or consider myself guilty, But I cannot, I do not want such life. With another strony, I ljubdju also do not want it or him poterat. I am simple in despair!
Help or Assist advice or council, I can not adjust the attitude or relation with the husband in any way though there are already more no forces. We are married only 1, 5 years, a daughter year. There was a greater or big problem - he drank. Has not reached yet drinking-bouts, but a lot of time spent in taverns with friends, came often at daybreak. Sometimes became malicious and aggressive, it was impossible to send it or him to sleep. After once has come absolutely deranged, threw me on walls, the child and when I did not allow to suffice sufficed - even beat, I have shown or presented to him the ultimatum and alcoholic vozlijanija have stopped. But quarrels, t began to flash. To. To keep it was difficult. Quarrels came and left. I tried to offer him of a different sort of a hobby for a free time as alternative to beer and vodka. He all otmel and with a head has left in job, giving reason it is that its or his job and a hobby coincide and that working vneurochno he can provide is better me and the child. It or him almost was not at home, but I agree, that at job it is better, chei in a tavern. Sometimes I was annoyed very much with retorts of our friends reaching me, that a pier I have braided the muzhik and even to drink to him I do not give (that is he all complained of me behind my back though to me spoke, that refusal of alcohol is its or his conscious decision). I tried to not pay to it attention. All still anything, but recently I have come to work also he began to talk, humiliate and abuse with me simply awfully iz-for any house trifles. I tried to speak with it or him, but he could not explain, what's the matter. Such feeling, that enrages it or him, that I was beat out iz-under a heel and in something became independent. And one of these days he under a pretext of job was late at night, it has then appeared, that he also there has drunk some beer. I by phone have abused it or him (all all over again!!!), Not udurzhalas. And he has not come at all, has called next day from mother and has told or said, that leaves, t. To. Cannot suffer or bear more me and I do not allow the muzhik to relax. Today he will come behind things and I know, that he remains only if I shall find or consider myself guilty, But I cannot, I do not want such life. With another strony, I ljubdju also do not want it or him poterat. I am simple in despair!