Tanja
13.05.2004, 09:46
Hello. We have met 11 years ago, from them 3 years met, 2 lived together, and more 6 are married. We have a child of 3 years. The husband liked me - to the madman in the first years and jealous improbably. Now he has already a little calmed down, but all the same continues to like. I in relation to it or him;them had inflow and otlivy, sometimes love, sometimes indifference, but very strong love to it or him;them I never tested. Eto so, the foreword.
Now a problem. One year ago we immigrated to America, we live in small enough city. I, as soon as have got the sanction to job, was arranged to work as the programmer, I receive the good salary. The husband too searches for job on programming, but cannot find, as English unimportant or $not very well is not enough years of experience, and. Unsuccessful searches proceed 9 months, and the husband has run into depression. Speaks, that has already lost hope kogda-or to find job that it was not necessary to leave, etc. I in turn to leave I do not want, and I try to explain to him, that all this time or temporary difficulties, and emigrants through it pass or take place all. The situation is aggravated with that he has again started me to be jealous, as I zhenshina attractive, every day I leave on job, and he remains at home, and it or he had a uncertainty in, is afraid, that I shall find someone - better and I shall leave from it or him.
Tried to persuade it or him to talk to the psychologist, but he does not believe, that the psychologist can something help or assist him, speaks: " That, he to me will find job? ".
And now the present or true problem. I for a long time any more do not feel, that I like the husband. Once I already tried to leave from it or him, but he has persuaded me to remain. In obshchem-that he the person good, me with it or him is quiet, but the love is not present, and to talk to us for a long time there is nothing. And to all to it or this its or his disability something is added is achieved in a life. I all time dragged it or him behind myself, I have forced it or him to go to study, I have fixed up for a job it or him (on native land or Rhodinum), I solve all the important questions in family. And I from it or this am tired. I want chustvovat the Man near to myself. But if I now shall throw it or him, it will turn out that are necessary to me from it or him only money, and it not so, my salary suffices us, I was simply bothered with its or his disability to operate or work and incur the responsibility for family.
I do not know, that to me to do or make. On the one hand, me it will be very serious one, I do not have here relatives, it is nobody me even one will talk, and in the household plan, to the child, I even am not able to hammer in a nail. And on the other hand, I all time live with feeling, that marriage or spoilage this temporary, that all the same will come or step the moment when we shall divorce, whether so is better to make it now while I am rather young (to me 29) while we have not got or started still children. But I am afraid to make a mistake or an error. And I am afraid, that he without me absolutely will be gone, especially now, when at it or him depression. Advise.
Now a problem. One year ago we immigrated to America, we live in small enough city. I, as soon as have got the sanction to job, was arranged to work as the programmer, I receive the good salary. The husband too searches for job on programming, but cannot find, as English unimportant or $not very well is not enough years of experience, and. Unsuccessful searches proceed 9 months, and the husband has run into depression. Speaks, that has already lost hope kogda-or to find job that it was not necessary to leave, etc. I in turn to leave I do not want, and I try to explain to him, that all this time or temporary difficulties, and emigrants through it pass or take place all. The situation is aggravated with that he has again started me to be jealous, as I zhenshina attractive, every day I leave on job, and he remains at home, and it or he had a uncertainty in, is afraid, that I shall find someone - better and I shall leave from it or him.
Tried to persuade it or him to talk to the psychologist, but he does not believe, that the psychologist can something help or assist him, speaks: " That, he to me will find job? ".
And now the present or true problem. I for a long time any more do not feel, that I like the husband. Once I already tried to leave from it or him, but he has persuaded me to remain. In obshchem-that he the person good, me with it or him is quiet, but the love is not present, and to talk to us for a long time there is nothing. And to all to it or this its or his disability something is added is achieved in a life. I all time dragged it or him behind myself, I have forced it or him to go to study, I have fixed up for a job it or him (on native land or Rhodinum), I solve all the important questions in family. And I from it or this am tired. I want chustvovat the Man near to myself. But if I now shall throw it or him, it will turn out that are necessary to me from it or him only money, and it not so, my salary suffices us, I was simply bothered with its or his disability to operate or work and incur the responsibility for family.
I do not know, that to me to do or make. On the one hand, me it will be very serious one, I do not have here relatives, it is nobody me even one will talk, and in the household plan, to the child, I even am not able to hammer in a nail. And on the other hand, I all time live with feeling, that marriage or spoilage this temporary, that all the same will come or step the moment when we shall divorce, whether so is better to make it now while I am rather young (to me 29) while we have not got or started still children. But I am afraid to make a mistake or an error. And I am afraid, that he without me absolutely will be gone, especially now, when at it or him depression. Advise.